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I am feeling very thankful for my life, today.

I am grateful that this pregnancy was planned and wanted, and that we were able to conceive after only six months of trying.

I am grateful that both bratling and I are excited about the coming baby, and feeling positive about the change coming to our lives.

I am grateful that both of us come from functional families, with parents who have maintained basically healthy marriages to this day.

I am grateful for the support of my friends and family members, and for the many and varied examples of parenting that we can find among them.

I am grateful that my pregnancy has been easy so far, and that my baby seems healthy and vigorous.

I am grateful for healthcare, and for the opportunity to choose the type of care I will receive.

I am grateful that we are financially stable enough to afford, if with difficulty, for me to stay home with the baby for the first year.


I've been reading When Partners Become Parents today. It's a sobering read, but also a useful one. I am keenly aware that the first years of parenting are hard times for many couples, and it scares me a little. I know that even partners who ultimately thrive in parenthood face real challenges in getting through the transition, and I worry about how we will handle those challenges. I am deeply frightened of the isolation that can come to stay-at-home parents, and I'm not sure how I can ease it.

But as I read the early chapters of this book, I am also reminded of what extra challenges we don't face--unresolved ambivalence about parenthood, unplanned pregnancy, tumultuous family histories, true financial hardship, and so much more. That realization bolsters my hopefulness, and leaves me feeling very thankful for the life that I am living.



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Apr. 20th, 2009 05:38 pm (UTC)
you really are going to be a great mom, you are so caring
Apr. 20th, 2009 06:58 pm (UTC)
That attitude you obviously carry into this is going to help so much.

Don't worry about the isolation of stay at home parenting. You will make connections. You will get help.

And hey, feel free to ask the Lazyweb parenting questions. I know many of the folks in my circle of parents, notably some of us rennie related folk, have had some good parenting conversations over the years, even if they're just communications to let each other know "it'll work out, don't worry" or a second opinion of "see the doc... " "yes, just wait" "yes, that happened to us too... "

Online communities are no substitute for real life, but they certainly can help, particularly at 2:00 am when you're wondering just what might be wrong.

And do not be afraid to ask your midwife/nurse/doctor/healthcare person for additional help after the birth.

Apr. 20th, 2009 07:14 pm (UTC)
Thanks for posting about this - it sounds like a very useful read for us. :)
Apr. 20th, 2009 08:55 pm (UTC)
We're all here for you when you need it.

Give me a call -- I'd love to talk to you about a few things :-)
Apr. 21st, 2009 01:42 am (UTC)
That was a beautiful thing to read. You will be a wonderful mother, and I'm sure continue to be a wonderful partner. <3
Apr. 21st, 2009 02:55 pm (UTC)
Yay! As I told your brother recently, I am as excited about meeting your baby and having him or her part of our circle, as I would be if it were my own sister. I've always believed that some people are just born to mother - my real life sister is one - and you're another. I can't wait! Woo! But I want to see you pregnant first, and hope you're coming to the GGG - I'll bet you are glorious :)
Apr. 21st, 2009 06:38 pm (UTC)
Happy for you... keep making friends, keep talking, and you will be fine, and much wiser from all this. You will be a fantastic Mom.
Apr. 23rd, 2009 05:14 pm (UTC)
This post makes me happy.

I'm happy that you and bratling found each other and are expanding your family. You seem firmly grounded, which is a good way to start the rollercoaster that will be bringing a baby into the world. I don't stay home full time, but two days a week. if you ever want to chat, i'm available...

i never heard any follow up, but i'm assuming it's not twins? :)
Apr. 30th, 2009 03:05 am (UTC)
*sorta makes a squinty face, all quizzical*
i'm really damn sorry you don't live near me any more.
probably for the best, though.
May. 12th, 2009 12:01 pm (UTC)
I know this is an older post, but I haven't been on for a while. It is wonderful to hear how happy you are.
And the best thing I've found for myself (even though I had to go back to work a few days a week) is my local library. They have a once a week "babies and books" time. The nice thing is that they have 2 sesions, and you don't have to sign up. You just show up, when you can/want to, to whichever session best fits baby's schedule that day. I'm sure there are things like that near you. I gt the chance to talk to other parents, even if just for 20 minutes.
Please feel free to give a ring anytime 603-889-2464
Yeah for new Moms!
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