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And now, a brief update

So, wow, it has been a long time since I posted here. I haven't been feeling very verbose in print this year... though I do have a small collection of half-written entries I never finished. But in the meantime, life has happened.

Specifically: I'm some 15 weeks pregnant.

I'm really very excited about this, and have been ever since I stopped quivering in terror (which I did for about the first 48 hours after I found out). Yes, this is planned, but I expected it to take much longer! But it's a good thing. The baby is due in July, which works out absurdly well for my work schedule, as a teacher. I'll get to finish out this school year, let my students see me go through almost the whole pregnancy, and then hopefully have enough time to rest a bit in the last month.

After some soul-searching (and spreadsheet-pondering), I've decided to take next year off of work, and stay home with the baby. That has always been my preference in theory, but I wasn't sure if it would be financially feasible. It certainly will be tight, but bratling and I feel like it's worth it, at least for the first year or two. I'm also hoping to use the time to try making some salable artwork--mostly pagan-oriented sculpture, with a solid historical eye. I'm looking forward to that challenge; it's a project that appeals me on a number of levels. I don't know if it will generate any income to speak of--and I'm open to the possibility that new-motherhood will override the project altogether--but it would be nice to try, at least.

Other details that might be of interest:

* I feel great! A little nausea first trimester, but almost nothing compared to what some folks experience. And now, even that's gone.

* No, I'm not going to find out the baby's sex in advance. I'm not going near an ultrasound machine, unless something is evidently wrong. I am content to be curious.

* Yes, we have some names in mind. No, I'm not telling. :)

* I'm planning a home birth, with as little outside intervention as possible (where "outside" means "outside my body"). I feel very fortunate to have found a midwife who seems to be of a similar mind as me in that regard--willing to sit back (like, in the other room) and let me do this myself, and genuinely willing to honor my decisions even when they're unorthodox. I didn't think I would be able to find a midwife whose style meshed with mine so well, and I'm ecstatic about it. She's awesome, and she even lives in my town! *does the happy dance*

I suspect I'll have more to say about this as things go on! I might even get as far as typing it in...

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carik
Jan. 21st, 2009 01:01 am (UTC)
Wow! And congratulations!

(By the way -- you're on my list of people I want to send a new-year card to but can't figure out how to contact. If you want one, send me your address -- my new email is amckenzie4 at gmail dot com.)
chris_warrior
Jan. 21st, 2009 01:08 am (UTC)
OMGYAY!!!

congrats!!!!
brickhousewench
Jan. 21st, 2009 01:10 am (UTC)
Congratulations! That is wonderful news, and I think you'll be an awesome mother.

And midwife? Coolness. Ever since we had a couple of midwives speak to my women's studies class in college I've always thought that if I ever had a kid, I'd want to go with a midwife.
scullerywench
Jan. 21st, 2009 02:16 am (UTC)
I always thought your silent strength would be the perfect model for any child. Yours is a confident sense of self that radiates to positively affect all around you and any child is lucky to have you.

Congrats.
kyra
Jan. 21st, 2009 02:26 am (UTC)
Wow, congratulations! Here's hoping for an easy pregnancy, an easier birth, and a delightful and healthy baby!
bess
Jan. 21st, 2009 02:50 am (UTC)
Congratulations!

Let me know if you need anything...

for instance, at this point I'm not likely to be using maternity clothes again... and we've got lots of summer weight newborn baby clothes that are also unlikely to be used again.....

Who's your midwife?
mstarfire
Jan. 21st, 2009 02:59 am (UTC)
Wishing you and your precious life all of the best! I will pray for a life of Peace and Contentment for all of you!

{{{HUGS}}}
lsl
Jan. 21st, 2009 03:01 am (UTC)
Wow! Amazing news. Congratulations!

If you need any baby stuff we have a ton and I highly recommend shopping at the Massachusetts Mother of Twins club sale (we are members of the founding chapter, but there are closer ones to you - don't know who good their sales are though). An amazing amount of stuff at cheap prices. Clothes, toys, furniture, carriers, strollers...
bhakti
Jan. 21st, 2009 11:37 pm (UTC)
Interesting, I haven't heard of them before. What kind of organization is it?
lsl
Jan. 27th, 2009 11:42 pm (UTC)
the founding chapter anyway is...
It is a club for mothers (parents) of twins (or higher order multiples). They provide support (social, emotional, financial, clothes & specialized gear for premature babies) for mothers of twins. They do charitable events several times per year (gift baskets for Rosie's Place, Clothes/Gear/etc.. to Cradles to Crayons, blood drives, etc...).

They hold a sale twice per year to raise money for the club with any leftovers stuff donated. Anyone can sell at the sale, but twin club members pay less. And anyone can buy at the sale, but club members get in 30min early (which can make a big difference if you are looking for something specific).

If you are interested in going, we go just about every time and could bring you as a guest if you'd like to get in early. It costs $1 per person to get in.
sippy9cup
Jan. 21st, 2009 03:18 am (UTC)
Yay!! Congratulations!!!! I'm so happy that you are going to keep your baby surprising..I think there's something kind of magical (and, of course, natural) about not knowing much about the little guy or gal until it's born. And you know, people having been having babies in their homes without doctors or drugs for....well as long as people have existed. Good for you!
veritology
Jan. 21st, 2009 03:23 am (UTC)
Congratulations. That's wonderful. Keep us up to date.
bhakti
Jan. 21st, 2009 11:44 pm (UTC)
Thank you!

I confess that your hard-won white coat was among the (many) factors that made me hesitate to mention my hippie birth plans in a public forum... But I also realize that this was probably silliness on my part, as you're generally an open-minded person. It's odd the way that official title gives one pause, even when one should know better...
aroraborealis
Jan. 21st, 2009 04:32 am (UTC)
Yaaaaay! Congrats!
keimel
Jan. 21st, 2009 11:52 am (UTC)
Congratulations!

No, I'm not going to find out the baby's sex in
advance. I'm not going near an ultrasound machine, unless something is evidently wrong. I am content to be curious.


Congrats on the sex thing too. One of the last great surprises we have around, IMHO. Get ready for yellow and white baby gifts galore! :)

I wouldn't be too afraid of the ultrasound as a measure to look at teh baby and see if things are okay, but you have your own preferences. If you do get one as a look for the docs to make sure all is well, be sure to let the operator know that you're not planning on finding out the sex so they don't slip and say "his" or "her".

Congrats! :)

bhakti
Jan. 21st, 2009 11:54 pm (UTC)
Thank you! And yeah, I'm sure there will be a lot of yellow and white. And green. My Mom made the green sweater set in advance, because she knew we wouldn't tell her the baby's sex anyway. ;)

As for the ultrasound... I'm not overly afraid of it, just cautious. I've read some research that gives me pause about its routine use. I'll still be willing to use it if there are signs that something is wrong, but I'll skip the routine just-to-be-sure checks. But then, I'm kind of a hippie when it comes to pregnancy and childbirth. ;)
keimel
Jan. 22nd, 2009 12:21 am (UTC)
I have friends who were very much this way.

I totally respect your decisions and wishes. I think the decision to stay home that first year (or more) will be more appreciated in the long term, but, hey, people have been doing it long enough without the technology, so we know our (well, half of 'our' - your) bodies know how.

I really do hope all goes well enough that you can deliver the way you want. :)
macalyster
Jan. 21st, 2009 02:12 pm (UTC)
You know how happy we are for you. And offer the same service, that the both of you provided for us, even just in sitting outside of the house with a candel and being moral support!

"* No, I'm not going to find out the baby's sex in advance. I'm not going near an ultrasound machine, unless something is evidently wrong. I am content to be curious"

It's funny we did the samething, but both of us pretty much knew that we would have a daughter (even without any fore knowledge)

The other thing that we will do, is for after you birth the little one (when you guys are up for visitors) we offer to cook, or clean, or do laundry (whatever needs to be done that day. It was really heplful having people do that for us.)
rising_moon
Jan. 21st, 2009 02:22 pm (UTC)
Hey, that's WONDERFUL! Congratulations!

I'm delighted that you're feeling well, and that you already know what you don't want to know. ;)
clodappleleft
Jan. 21st, 2009 03:44 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!!!!

I mimic everyone else in the feelings about finding out the baby's sex. I think it's definitely better and more fun to wait.

You're going to make a great mom! Good Luck!!!
curly_chick
Jan. 21st, 2009 04:24 pm (UTC)
I am really thrilled for you! Can't wait to hear updates as things progress.
virgino_orsino
Jan. 21st, 2009 06:40 pm (UTC)
Woot! Congratulations, indeed! And an extra huzzah for how empowered you are feeling about the whole process. That is even better and such a great way to be able to bring a human being into the world. :)
catling
Jan. 22nd, 2009 02:23 am (UTC)
Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! CONGRATULATIONS!

I am so happy for you and Bratty! :)

Hey, I've been wanting to get together with y'all and introduce you both to my K for a while now. Ping me for zee hanging outen?
siren_noda
Jan. 22nd, 2009 07:14 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Awesome news Zanne!
aleyhr
Jan. 23rd, 2009 06:40 pm (UTC)
Woot Babies!
I will add my Congrats to the rest! I am very excited for you and can't wait to see pictures of you all rounded :)
It is wonderful to wait and see (boy or girl). That is what we did and it was amazing!
Glad you were able to find a provider that can fulfill your wishes!
Please post more soon.
(Anonymous)
Jan. 27th, 2009 07:54 pm (UTC)
congrats!
Hey there - it's Lucy again. Just popped by here to see if you were up to anything and you are!! Congratulations! Having a baby is one of the most crazy and awesome things in the world. You will be amazed at the infinite love you will feel for your little one.

As to the ultrasounds; I wouldn't worry about them too much. I only had 2 of them, so it's not like they would plan to do a bunch unless something were seriously wrong. You also really can't tell the sex from them unless the dr points it out and even then you are basically just taking their word for it.

Good luck on the home birth. I wanted a hospital birth, with as little interference as possible, but things did not work out as I planned. I know someone who has given birth at home and it can be fine if you're not high risk. But you should of course be careful because unexpected things can happen - the baby's clavicle or arm got broken in the birth in this case; not that it couldn't happen at a hospital.

Anyway, congratulations! I'm happy to answer any Qs you might have if you're so inclined. lbriggs2004@comcast.net
coffeekitty
Feb. 15th, 2009 01:45 am (UTC)
congratulations!
and right now I'm laughing like mad, 'cause right around the time you made this post, i was in bed taking Percocet, recovering from getting my tubes tied.
irony of juxtaposition, what?
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